Love to self
Valentines challenge to all! How about not waiting for love but giving it to numero uno. Yes You! the one in front of the screen. Its exactly what you are longing for and deserve. The person you can rely on to call, post, front up is not so far away. It may sound cheap even cheesy but you have to start somewhere with love so aren’t you the perfect recipient. Your self worth, self esteem impacts on your courage and capacity to love.
Do you give yourself a positive peep talk and reflect on how amazing you are? There is no one else like you as my Mother said “they broke the mould “( much to her relief. ) We come to earth with gifts to share so don’t hide yourself. Gifts are to be discovered, it may be your capacity to draw, write, act, sing, swim or make people laugh. Listen to your self talk. Are you a friend to yourself ? I hear how people refer to themselves harshly and cringe wondering if I should call the Child Protection Unit as there inner child is battling a critic. Be a trend setter on Valentines day give some praise to the small child inside you that longs to be acknowledged and loved. Write a letter to yourself filled with kindness and appreciation for the gift you are. There are people who may miss this gift and others yet to find you – maybe even become a friend.
In the Wellness workbook by Travis and Reilly self love and self responsibility are referred to as the two pillars that are the foundations to wellness.
Self love means:
# Celebrating your uniqueness and that of others;
# Listening to your internal wisdom;
# Seeing life’s challenges as opportunities not problems;
# Caring for all aspects of your being and caring for others;
# Show compassion to your weakness, forgive yourself and others;
# Be your own best friend and no matter what be faithful to yourself;
# Realize you are connected with all things thus act congruent with this;
# Be truthful with yourself and others;
# Celebrate the process of life.
The killer of self love is comparison, it is an insidious poison that rots you from the inside. Jealousy, anger, sadness and devaluing is what grows from comparison. The healthy alternative to comparison is accepting and appreciating yourself and others as they are. Yes we may not be able to keep up with the images, standards and lifestyle trends sold to us. But being the best you, the one and only, limited edition you is worth loving not comparing.
Valentines day onwards love to self – a foundation to nurture you in the hard times and stabilise future LOVE.